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I'm engaged. :)
I wrote this to my best friend a couple days after it happened.
ENGAGMENT!!
Holy Shit! Simran! I’ve been totally blind-sided. I haven’t slept in days. or rather I used to pass out around 10 and now i can’t seem to fall asleep until 2am. I can’t sit still at work and it doesn’t help that when i type, drink, drive, scratch my face i see a RING.
You know for all those moments of me fighting being a girly girl, the moment someone catches you by surprise like that with a ring, that shit goes out the window and you’re grabbing your heart hoping you don’t faint and you don’t care how red in the face you are. The adrenaline is insane. I had to drink half a bottle of wine that night at home to settle down.
So you want the full story?
Let me knock out all rumors that I did NOT know this was going to happen. I did not go and get a manicure thinking he was going to propose on our anniversary. I’ve been getting that question a lot.
This is how the story goes as Adam told me. Back in May, unemployed, down, and slightly intoxicated, Adam decided he was going to marry me. Job or not. He said he could count on me during rough times like his then present situation and that I proved that to him and he wanted to make sure I knew it. So, he starts planning, and as he gets his new job the following month, he starts saving. At first, he thought he was going to propose in Spain, but decided against it because he wanted the moment between us and not on my parent’s dime. He also wanted to make sure my mom’s mom (mi abuelita) approved and how my mom’s side thought of him. After getting back from Spain, this is when Shaz tells me about her pending engagement with her newish boyfriend. Adam tells me he was pissed as Shaz “cut in line”! He didn’t want that to trump his proposal or make it seem he was doing it because Shaz got engaged first. (whatevs, everyone and their mom is getting hitched, so you can’t time it perfectly).
Well, Shaz’s boyfriend asks me to please take Shaz ring shopping and get a feel for what she wants. I tell Adam the day I’m going and that I won’t be home until later. Meanwhile, Manette is gchatting me that day, not knowing of Adam’s plans, about how exciting it will be go to ring shopping and how she wants to come, blah blah, and then asks me “would you marry adam?” and I say “yes, but only when he’s ready”. She said that triggered her to text Adam “We need to chat”. Adam freaked out thinking this may be good news or bad news. So before meeting Shaz and I, they talk and he decides to clue her in and tell her that he’s been waiting till our 3 year anniversary. She plans to act as a spy while we’re at the store. I get pissed the whole time because she has me try on rings and sizing up my damn finger. The whole time I wanted it to be Shaz’s day not play day. So i kept reverting attention back to Shaz. (FYI Shaz had no clue).
As we’re leaving, the consultant slips Manette the ring # of my top pick . I leave with Shaz to get a bite to eat and Manette goes back to work and immediately calls Adam. While I’m out with Shaz, Adam goes to the store and makes a deposit and orders the ring in my size.
I get home from being with Shaz, and Adam is on the couch with kali. I sit down and bitch about how Manette was totally stealing the show and focus off of Shaz and putting me on the spot. He’s like “oh. yeah. uh that’s rude” one word answers. So later I mention to him (which i never ever have before) that I saw a style of ring I liked and if he didn’t mind if i emailed him the pic in case “one day” he starts looking. He frowns and says no, don’t send me anything. He goes on to say he’s getting too much pressure from everyone and doesn’t need it from me. I then get up to go to my room because that totally crushed me and I wasn’t expecting such a reaction. Of course, little did I know he already got the ring and didn’t want me to know he got the one I wanted. He later tells me that he felt terrible that night but had to make sure I wouldn’t suspect a thing.
The phrase that night that got me to rule out the notion completely was “don’t worry, I’ll marry you one day”.
After that, he tries to text my father to meet up for dinner with just him and my mom. My father doesn’t text until hours later and says “let’s coordinate”, which Adam says he thought that’s what he was doing. He texts back saying how about tuesday night dinner. No response for a day. Finally Adam asks me, “how do you say coordinate in spanish?” I tell him and he goes to text my father “tenemos que coordinar”. Immediately, my father responds. This was planned before my sister’s goodbye dinner at the SAME restaurant they “coordinated” to have the dinner at the following week. Adam says that that goodbye dinner for Belen was long and he felt extremely embarrassed/awkward because he knew my parents had a feeling of why he wanted to see them without me involved.
Adam also has to figure out a way to get me out of the house that night. I don’t go out on weekdays so there has to be something set in stone for me to not flake out.He hires Manette again. She suggests to me one day to go to this painting class where it’s BYOB. I’m like ok what are we painting? OH a dead tree? WHAT? No manette, i’m not painting a dead tree to hang on my wall. You can tell she has a law degree because she lied her ass off and said it wasn’t ugly and she really likes it and wants to hang out with me. I cave. Fine.
Turns out the painting class is right in front of the restaurant Adam and my parents are meeting at.
Manette is late meeting me and I already bought my food and wine to take. She coerces me to go inside the market with her to HELP her pick something out afraid I was going to see Adam’s car. I then bitch at her because she was on the phone the whole time and i could’ve been outside having a cigg. HA.
We end up staying at the painting place an hour after it ends because she wants to talk. Turns out adam wasn’t back at the place yet. I’m tired and I just spent 25 bucks on a blue painting of a lifeless tree. She is at this point convincing me to go to the nail salon with her and our other friend Katie. I told her I haven’t done that since Prom practically. So she finally convinced me and I went home. Of course, she wanted my nails to look pretty for that evening......i regret fighting her on everything every step of the way!
SO Adam meets my parents at dinner-but before that, he went to get the ring during his lunch break the day before. He ends up getting into a car wreck which he doesn’t tell me about because it’s nowhere near where he works and that would’ve made me oh so suspicious.
Can you imagine Adam directing traffic on a two way straight while he waits for the cops sweating in 90 degree weather with a ring in his pocket? Neither could i.
Ok back to the dinner- He gets there and they order drinks and what not. Once the waiter leaves them alone, my mom looks at him (you know that half smile, smirk, evil eye, she has?) and says quietly, “so....what’s up?”. Adam says, “well, Ana and I’s three year anniversary is coming up and I would really like for your blessing to ask her to marry me?” and before he could finish, my mom says “of course!”. Adam says my dad is hard to read and was not expecting what was about to happen. My dad gets up and gives him a huge hug which he says almost made him tear up. He said asking my parents and the whole dinner was the easiest part of this whole process. He said the rest of the dinner was great, joking, etc.
I get home that night and he has beaten me home and I look at him and say “have you been sleeping all day?” He says yes. So I show off my dead tree and tell him Manette has weird taste.
Fast forward 5 days to our anniversary day.
Adam was acting weird all damn weekend. One word answers, not really wanting to do anything, watching football. I was annoyed. 3 years and this what i have to get used to? I started re-evaluating my relationship. I knew he was going through stuff at work so I blamed his mood on that. He later tells me it was the longest day of his life and he was incredibly nervous. So evening is coming and I’m not in the mood because Adam was not excited at all or rather didn’t appear to be. So I was about to put jeans on and a t-shirt thinking, well, i hope he pays for dinner at least. I see him come out with a button up shirt and more dressed than usual. I’m like, crap, i’ll go change. Skirt on. As we’re leaving, I don’t even see a damn card, nothing. So keep in mind, my expectations are super low and I was praying to not have a crappy night as I was predicting.
He’s quiet in the car, AC full blast. Ok...
We arrive at GoldFish (where we first met up with him 3 years ago). He at least made reservations! woo! We order salads, he doesn’t finish his. I thought that was odd, he always finishes everything.plus mine.
He wants to split an entree. WHAT! Meanwhile, still not really talking, sweating, one word answers, and i flat out ask him “are you okay? You look uncomfortable?” He says he’s fine.
I’m sad because we’re eating in silence and we’re THAT COUPLE. So I’m thinking well, i guess we can go home early and watch Breaking Bad Finale.
We finish entrees and he gets up to go to the bathroom. He had placed the ring in a tooth floss box because the ring box was too big and would’ve been noticeable in his pocket. He goes to take it out. As he’s leaving the bathroom, he finds the closest servers who aren’t busy and gets them to follow him to the table at a distance with camera phones. He comes up to me and says “hurry you have got to come see this” I tell him that i don’t want to go to the men’s bathroom and to tell me what it is that i have to see. So he’s like get up! So i slowly get up grab my purse and phone.--- NO NO! Leave your purse. I turn to leave my purse and before i can turn around to him he’s already on one knee with the ring. My jaw drops and he goes “will you marry?”
“Oh my God. Are you serious?..........Yes!” He gets up and we’re both shaking and beat red. People are clapping. Because we’re both so nervous and i’m suffering from a minor heart attack. He asks me where does the ring go? And i look down and i’m like “shit, uh right hand no..left..left right..no LEFT!” Then I notice that the ring is the one i had picked out and i look at him baffled & stunned. He puts it on and we kiss and hug. We sit back down and servers immediately bring us dessert and champagne! He didn’t plan that--they were awesome enough to do it.
So I see this wave of relief come over him and I have my Adam back. He explains everything and then I say, maybe you should’ve asked me before our salads so would’ve at least gotten to eat!
Then after that it’s been a crazy whirlwind of a situation.
OH FYI when I took a pic of the ring on my hand, i noticed the manicure once more and called Manette’s ass to thank her..for everything and they met us out for celebratory drinks.
My fingers hurt. Love you!!!!!!!!!
The End.
